Vulnerability: Not a Weakness, A Strength
By Kaitlin Costarene
Oxford Languages defines “vulnerable” as “susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm.” And yes, by nature it is often tempting to close ourselves off to situations that risk our physical and emotional strength. Actually, it’s a defense mechanism. But in resisting vulnerability, people also resist the potential of something great.
Personal growth lies in the power of vulnerability. When you acknowledge your weaknesses and lean into the discomfort they present, you will find yourself in a much better place than that in which you began. Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness. In fact, it demonstrates incredible strength. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you will develop a deeper understanding of yourself and those around you. You will become more sensitive to other people's situations, and as a result, you will become a more compassionate and empathetic person, qualities most of us strive to have.
A few days ago, I read something that served as an important reminder. It said, “Be sure not to expect others to know what you need without communicating those needs clearly.” This resonates with me because it seems so simple, yet it is sometimes so hard to do. So often I find myself expecting certain things out of others. But if they don’t know that I hold them to those standards or need them to be present in certain ways, I end up disappointed and they end up confused. Communicating your needs and allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to have that conversation is essential. I’m sure most people can reflect back on a time when they found themselves in a vulnerable position. And while it might be scary or risky or not so fun during that time, the aftermath usually makes it all worth it. I’m also sure that most people can reflect back on a time when they wish they had been more open and vulnerable with others.
All of this might sound vague and distant, but the importance of vulnerability and the ability to communicate your needs clearly are crucial and often so overlooked. Keeping this practice in the back of your mind is a great way to enhance your relationships with others and even your relationship with yourself. Don’t close yourself off and fall into defensive mode. Instead of keeping everything to yourself, say what needs to be said. Oftentimes, when things are left unsaid, we regret not sharing them. So, take the risk. You won’t regret it.
